Arms Length

Dear Ms. Disiac,

I dated this guy for a year and a half and we broke up several months ago because he wasn't sure if I was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. I guess our relationship was ready for the next level of commitment and he wasn't ready so he broke up with me. Since then I have kept my distance but lately he's been wanting to do things with me and he calls and email me more and more. He gets a little offended when I don't call or email back or want to go out with him. His actions and words contradicts each other. I feel that I need to keep him at arm's length to avoid being hurt again but do you think that this is his way of trying to get back together with me or do you think that he wants his cake... - to have the best of both worlds of being single yet having me there for him. I still love him so I am very confused on what to do.

­ Arms Length

Dear Arms Length,

I'm going to keep this short: you're telling the wrong person. You should tell him the things that you wrote in your question to me. It doesn't mean that you should let him have his way, but you should find out where he stands and tell him how you feel. You already know what to say, now just say it out loud.

- Afra

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