Cheater v. Cheater

Dear Ms. Disiac,

I'll make it simple. I cheated on my boyfriend of one year with his good friend who is also his sisters recent ex-boyfriend. I was really intoxicated. I'm afraid word will get out. He said I could trust him to keep quiet. I haven't talked to him since the incident, which was only a few days ago. I don't know him well enough to trust him. Should I try to contact him to make sure he'll keep it on the hush? Should I break up with my boyfriend? There is no way in hell that I will ever admit it if I'm confronted. I will deny it all the way. I don't want to leave him I just want to get away with it this one time. By the way he's cheated on me several times. But I will die if his sister finds out. Everyone will hate me. My boyfriends a very popular person with a lot of pull on peoples opinions. Help.

-Cheater v. Cheater

Dear Cheater,

Two wrongs don't make a right and two wrongs make for a bad relationship. Your cheating tells you that there is a problem with your relationship. Alcohol was only an excuse, and if you think about it, you'll know it's true. You may be trying to make yourself feel better about being with a guy who cheats repeatedly, but a repeated cheater will most likely continue to cheat. If you don't want to share your boyfriend, then get a new one who doesn't cheat. Worry less about what everyone thinks about you, and worry more about what you think about yourself and what you are putting yourself through. You may be finding that there is a price to popularity if you are putting popularity above your own feelings.

- Afra


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