To Get To The Heart Of Your Loved One
By Caroline Therancy
How can we capture
the heart of a Visual, an Auditory or a Feeling person?
With Visuals, you
need to use visual terms; from my ‘’perspective’’, I can ‘’see’’
what you mean, the more I ‘’look’’ into this, the more it ‘’seems’’
nice, I ‘’observed’’ how wonderful you are with kids, etc…
Visual need to be
stimulated with what they see; always have a neat house, with
harmonized colors, be dressed elegantly in every situation (wearing
jeans can be elegant with a nice matching color and style top).
Be sexy. For lovemaking, always have a little light, or candle,
because it turns them on to see their partner enjoying sex. Look
in the eyes show them that you care for them and you are attentive.
Visuals like to make scenarios.
They usually don’t
rush in the lovemaking because they need to admire first. They
need to ‘’see’’ it. Also, they don’t communicate in words their
feelings. They show them instead. Be sensitive to their generosity.
Don’t share your feelings too early in the relationship. Show
them instead how you feel and how you are. They’ll get the picture.
Auditory will be worried
about the noise in the house. Quietness and great music atmosphere
sure gets them to come around often. Use a soft voice when speaking
to them even when you are fighting. You will need to speak in
sound language; your voice ‘’turns’’ me on, that has a negative
‘’ring’’, ‘’tell me, what do you think? I’m ‘’listening’’, this
sounds ‘’wonderful’’, the ‘’rhythm’’ is perfect, etc.. Think verbal
reassurance. Looking in the eye won’t have the same effect. Auditory
often ask if you love them. For lovemaking, use a sensual sweet
‘’radio voice’’ in their ear.
Describe how you feel
during the heat of the passion. Sounds of lovemaking will have
a powerful effect on them. They usually don’t notice the new dress
or new haircut that you just had, but they will gladly listen
on how you got that new dress or new haircut, as long as they
are in an environment that allows listening. They are really interested
in who you are. Not on how you look. They are the best listeners.
With a Feeling person,
use feelings word; that ‘’feels’’ good, I’d hate to ‘’disappoint
you’’, I don’t really ‘’connect’’ with that person, I can’t wait
to ‘’touch’’ you, I ‘’feel’’ that we are going somewhere, let
me give you a ‘’massage’’, etc...They can be perceived a passionate
people because they express their feelings so much. They need
to know how you feel, very early in the relationship. They expect
to be touched by their partner a lot and they do the same.
They often complain
about insensitivity of their partners. Play with their hair while
you talk to them, in the car, while you are driving, keep one
hand on the leg, take walks and hold hands, wear satin underwear,
make hot bath, etc...Feeling people can make lovemaking in any
situation because they need the touch only. They are not necessarily
the neat one or the most elegant either, but they will truly appreciate
the complete you.
Pay attention of the
dominant type of you and your partner’s. Practice the appropriate
communication style until it becomes natural. Reducing challenges
in a relationship increases the chances of lasting romance. Now,
you have a way to capture the heart of anyone that you want, if
you are single, and you can re-ignite the fire if you are in an
unsatisfying relationship and get what you and your partner wants,
because the connection will be deeper. I am a strong believer
of ''say anything that you want'' to your partner. But, there
are ways of saying things. You just learned on how to make yourself
heard and understood properly and receive your partner's needs
and caring expressions right.
Believe me. You’ll
see the difference ;-)
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About The Author
Who is Caroline? She
is a growing expert on love, relationship, romance because she
is reading a lot on the subject. She is presently in a fulfilling
relationship and she is gladly sharing her knowledge and experience.
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